How Romantic Attachment Works

Some of the reason why we choose such unsuitable partners in love is that we aren’t trying to find someone who ideally suits us, we’re looking out for someone who feels familiar. We recreate in adulthood patterns of attachment that we know from childhood - and thereby often perpetuate cycles of suffering and dissatisfaction. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: For books and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: “Konrad Lorenz, who was born in 1903 and died in 1989, was an Austrian ornithologist and zoologist who spent most of his adult life in marshes and wetlands studying the beh